Joe Bufford, Sr. Pastor, Hillcrest Baptist Church, Hopkinsville, KY

READ Ephesians 5:22-33

Unfortunately, my parents went through a divorce when I was a child. Their divorce meant my younger sister and I would live with my mother and go to our father’s house every other weekend. Such a living situation for children is miserable. No child should have to be torn between his mother and father, but such happens every single day. My parents’ divorce occurred over thirty years ago and yet it still saddens me today. I am not sure of the cause, but am for certain of the effects.

Rarely a week goes by that I am not made aware of a marriage that is in jeopardy. As a pastor, I have heard of numerous excuses and number one on the list is, “My needs are not being met.” Herein is the root cause of many failed marriages—selfishness.

In spite of what society fuels, marriage is not so much about having your own needs met as much as it is about meeting the needs of your spouse. C.S. Lewis expressed the thought well when he said, “Humility is not thinking less of yourself, it’s thinking of yourself less.” Every husband and father would do his family well to think more of his wife and children than of himself.

Men, let Jesus be your motivating example. Paul wrote to the Christians in Ephesus and said, “Husbands, love your wives just as Christ loved the church and gave Himself for her” (Eph. 5:25) Let me encourage you to read the passage of Eph. 5:22-33 in its entirety and then ask yourself who you have been spending more time thinking of, you or your wife. Children need to see that marriage works when it’s more selfless than selfish.

Lord, forgive me of my selfishness. Help me go to my wife and ask her forgiveness as well. Finally, help me live in the freedom of forgiveness.

On @Real_Momentum App: Rarely a week goes by that I am not made aware of a marriage that is in jeopardy. #realmomentum


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