Is there a lady out there who has thanked God about something that directly relates to the man in your life? How about thanking him personally? If not yet, please do it now!
After you do that number one most important thing, then I want to share with you the second thing that I pray you will say before you begin to pour your heart out to God about specifics in the life of your husband, son, father, etc…
BECOME HELPFUL TO HIM!
Genesis 2:18, “And the LORD, God said, ‘It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper comparable to him.'”
1 Corinthians 11:9, “Nor was man created for the woman, but woman for the man.”
God is so good in His design. He really is. Why do we as people try to mix it up? Confuse it? Water it down? Downgrade it? Because that is exactly what the enemy desires for us to do. If he can get us off track in our specific roles that God lays out clearly in His Word, then our guys lose momentum and our families and churches suffer.
God designed us to be a helper. Before you brush this off, consider the fact that God calls Himself a helper. One who comes alongside and helps carry the load. One who makes it a priority to seek out ways to help another’s life become just a little easier. One who fills the gap. One who brightens the day. One who makes sure needs are met. One who builds up and doesn’t tear down. One who speaks the truth in love. One who esteems others as better than herself. One who motivation is not selfish ambition. One who is gracious and kind. One who lays down her life for another. One who considers her role and resolves to take it seriously… for eternity’s sake.
So, instead of thinking…”How can he help me today?”, let’s begin by asking God, “Lord, how can I help him today?”! And, then ask the Lord to empower you to do it.
In our girls bedroom hanging above their mirror are the words “ABSOLUTELY NO NAGGING.” It was Keith’s idea to hang it in there. Why? Because we as women have a tendency to nag and he knows that from experience! Now, don’t get mad at Keith. It is biblical. God tells us several times in His Word that women often are nags and it would be better for the man to live on the corner of a housetop than in the same room with that kind of woman. I can sense God’s heart really going out to that man.
Our guys are not perfect. Never will be. The sooner we realize that, the better. Instead of nagging, belittling, mothering, and complaining, why don’t we begin to hush and help them.
How can you help your man today? God will show you! May you be willing.
This is a question that you will need to be mindful of all day. There will be opportunities to be helpful just waiting for you. An example of that for me is Keith has been telling me he needs my help in the start of our new ministry. I have been like, “Yeah, yeah. I am with you. I will help you.” Then, I go into the next room, assume my normal responsibilites and not give it much more thought.
Until I finally decided to go to him and ask specifically how I could help, I wasn’t being much of a help at all. For me to be able to give him 30 minutes to an hour or longer of my time means I have to readjust my schedule, get older children to watch the younger, stay up a little later at night, etc…But, in doing that, guess what happened? Keith moved from feeling like he was 9th on my list (he has joked and said he feels a lot of times like he is last after the children) on up to the top. Men know when they are last and when they are number one. They take on a whole new countenance when they reach the top!
So very thankful that this day is a new day to be a godly helpmeet to my husband and model that for my daughters and practice that on my sons,