Jason Wade, Pharmacist

READ Romans 15:7

At various times in our lives and our marriages, we are going to sin against God and our spouse.  Unfortunately, we still have a sin nature.  That means that we will need to seek forgiveness from each other. We will also need to grant forgiveness to our spouse when they sin against us.  Our trust in them will be broken. Rebuilding trust is not automatic; it takes time, patience, and grace from God. If we are to grant forgiveness, then we need to understand what true forgiveness is and what it is not. 

True forgiveness is not:

  • Conditional
  • Forgetting everything that has happened
  • Pretending that something did not happen
  • An automatic cure for the hurt

True forgiveness is:

  • A choice to set your spouse free from the debt of the offense
  • An attitude of letting go of resentment and vengeance
  • The first step toward a process of rebuilding trust
  • An act of obedience to God

There are 4 steps to granting forgiveness:

1) Do it privately: Go to God in prayer: God, I forgive _______ for hurting me.

2) Do it publicly and specifically: Go to your spouse and be specific. I forgive you for _______.

3) Do it graciously: Keep the bigger goal in mind. Let’s settle this and get on with our relationship.

4) Do it generously: Acknowledge your own failings to maintain balance. I’ve done things like that myself.

Dietrich Bonhoeffer, in his book Letters and Papers from Prison, said: “God gives you Christ as the foundation of your marriage. ‘Welcome one another…as Christ has welcomed you, for the glory of God’ (Rom 15:7)… Don’t insist on your rights, don’t blame each other, don’t judge or condemn each other, don’t find fault with each other, but accept each other as you are, and forgive each other every day from the bottom of your hearts.”

Father, thank You for the forgiveness of sins through Jesus Christ’s finished work on the cross.  Forgive me for when I haven’t been willing to forgive my spouse. Help me to freely forgive as You have so graciously forgiven me. In Jesus’ Name. Amen.

If we are to grant forgiveness, then we need to understand what true forgiveness is and what it is not. @Real_Momentum App


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